The Dating Game

Since we just celebrated Valentine’s Day, and my quartet spent a wonderful Friday delivering Singing Valentines, I’ve been thinking a lot about Dating and Love…

The idea for this post arrived via Facebook, when I came across these items:

2A Speed Dating

Reasons to Date a Female Doctor

It made me think even more about some “social” issues that I have come up against time and again. Namely, how much information do you share with a date?

It’s not bad enough that I feel I have to hide what I do for a living (at least initially) for fear of intimidating a potential date, but I struggle with sharing my firearms hobby as well.

I mean really — it’s not like the Mid-Life Dating Game is brimming with men who are looking for an age-appropriate woman anyway (and not 20-something arm-candy). Thus, intimidating a man Financially, Intellectually, and Arsenally (is that even a word?) is not really going to help the situation. LOL! I know there are men out there who could handle it, but I haven’t run across too many of them yet.

Thus, my conundrum. How does one remain “true” to oneself and one’s interests without scaring off any prospects before they have a chance to get to know you? One of my Facebook friends said that there should be a dating website for shooters. After all, there are specific dating sites for various religious groups, and farmers, and I think Alaskans, too, so why not for firearms enthusiasts? Surely the NRA has big enough server space to host something like that?? (hint, hint) LOL!

I can’t be the only one who has come up against these issues. Surely other women shooters have dealt with this as well? After all, Kay found Jerry, right? And Lena just got hitched, and so did Gabby Franco. But they’re cute young things, not a grumpy old broad like me – LOL.

So anyway, I thought it would be a fun subject to talk about.
What about you? What do you think? Do you tell a new date about your shooting habits, or do you bury it until things develop a little more? How do you broach the subject? Do you wait until they see your massive gun safe? LOL. I suppose “carrying” on a date is a must – especially for someone you meet online (besides the usual safety advice about meeting in a public place, etc.) Have you ever met your significant other at a shooting match? At a gun club dinner? In a duck blind?

Have you met anyone at SHOT? …… LOL there’s a fabulous idea!! A Singles Meet and Greet at SHOT!! (Or even the National NRA Convention) Who wants to head up that committee and get a sponsor?!!! Anyone? Bueller?

I’d love to hear people’s experiences and thoughts! Feel free to share either here on on the Facebook page.

  1. GunDiva

    February 22, 2014 at 1:03 pm

    I met my husband via On my profile, I clearly stated that I was a shooter and that "tree-hugging, bunny-loving anti-gunners need not apply". I'd like to say it thinned the herd, but I think MORE men came out of the woodwork when I said I was a shooter. And not quality men, either. More the type who thought a little lady with a gun was hot, as long as the little lady didn't *really* know what she was doing and couldn't out-shoot their men.

    In the end it worked out. My husband can shoot (he's a hell of a shooter), but it's not his passion, so shooting is kind of my thing, but he supports it. It works.

  2. Dr. LateBloomer

    February 22, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    I'm glad to hear a success story! Thanks for sharing. I've started joking that from now on I'll only date CCW permit holders — because at least you know they can pass a background check!! πŸ˜€

  3. GunDiva

    March 3, 2014 at 4:59 pm

    My hubby worked for an armored car company at the time. Not only did I know he could handle a gun, but he also had to have decent credit πŸ™‚

  4. 19 Turkeys

    March 3, 2014 at 5:00 pm

    Kathy, I can relate to this big time. Once things healed after loosing Irene to stage 4 metastatic lung cancer & I was dating the issue was concealed carry. Do you/don't you? Where do you draw the line? Bottom line was I was lucky enough to find Barbara & she understands. & we need to have coffee next year at SHOT. Meeting you was an unexpected pleasant surprise! Steve

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